In this technological age, we are spending a vast majority of time communicating in emails, texts, short sentences, abbreviations, emoticons and even through it gets across a general idea, it is far from rich conversations and exchanges of ideas that man has historically shared. There is no better time than the present to begin to engage in richer, real conversations, whether they happen in person, on zoom, phone, at work, in meeting new people, or in our existing relationships. Better communications can change your life, improve your relationships and vastly add greater satisfaction to life. With a few secrets you can have more successful and deeper communications.
The importance of conversation
“Reach out and touch someone”, is one of the most famous phrases associated with the success of people in conversation. To be able to have a long lasting connection with others, we must have the ability to speak without fear and move our hearts and minds. A cursory analysis shows that talking helps us to get to know one another, and gets us to know what’s on the other side of the table. Some people will argue that there is no need to talk about controversial and emotional issues when it can be avoided altogether. However, there are so many beautiful lessons to be learned in talking about such ‘heavy’ topics; it builds trust, a clear understanding of our emotions, and allows us to tap into empathy.
The benefits of conversation
In today’s world, our smartphone, computer, mobile and laptop are all designed to prevent us from having a face-to-face conversation with a person, as the concept of engagement and connection is highly accepted. Instead, we connect with our devices and this is exactly what we see happening. By having real conversations with people even if it is over a device, we can have richer experiences, form stronger bonds and better relationships. Studies have shown that people who have contact with other people, have a stronger sense of satisfaction with their lives, physical well-being and are generally healthier than those who have less interaction. The study on the relationship between social connectedness and health concluded that social connectedness can have a significant effect on a person’s overall physical and mental well-being.
There are several ways you can become a better communicator by taking the art and science of communication seriously. Remember, communication is a part of our nature and man has been blessed with intelligence and courage to use our nature to communicate our thoughts, feelings, thoughts and feelings. It is also the reason why any person, who can articulate his thoughts with courage, he is seen as a leader. Here we will focus on the art of communication, rather than the science of communication, because a good conversation is truly an art; a way of using intelligence, reasoning, sensitivity and humour to speak on issues that affect life and the lives of others. Effective communication is based on communication skills.
- Open with a compliment. This is one of the best conversation starters.
- Embrace small talk. While some people consider small talk to be impolite, and it isn’t the most fulfilling type of conversation, it is both functional and necessary because small talk is what leads to a deeper conversations.
- Ask lots of questions. Take interest in the other person. Questions are a wonderful way to break the ice and balance the dialogue. Looking for “tell me more” opportunities throughout the conversation. Maintain a list of potential questions in the back of your mind. Make an effort to be as specific and inquisitive as possible.
- Listen to understand, not just to respond. Pay as much attention to the conversation as you can and use it to advance it.
- Show interest and be curious. People who genuinely care about others are usually interested in themselves.
Why? Because they are more willing to learn about and comprehend new concepts. Showing curiosity makes the other person feel more at ease and allows them to offer information more readily. Show that you’re paying attention by maintaining good eye contact and actively listening.
- Be kind. This should go without saying, but certainly don’t overlook it. Your level of friendliness can make or break the other party’s receptiveness. Enter into the conversation with a ready smile and open body language, and keep yourself open, receptive, and politely smiling for as long as you can. Be aware of your body language. Avoid crossing your arms, appearing distracted, or allowing your gaze to wander. Do maintain eye contact whenever possible and go out of your way to demonstrate that you’re genuinely interested in what they’re saying.
- Make sure there is a healthy balance of give and take. When one person is doing all of the talking and the other is trying to get a word in edgewise, a conversation can quickly become boring. When this occurs, whoever is not speaking begins to tune out, and there is no longer any conversation!
- Keep an open mind; everyone has the right to express themselves, even if you disagree with what they say.
- Avoid certain topics like sex, religion, and politics, despite the fact that this is cliche.
You’d be surprised how many people get trapped by them and end up in a verbal battle rather than a conversation.
- Maintain an approachable demeanor by remaining calm, smiling, and friendly.
- Avoid making judgements. Whether you’re talking to a romantic partner or a complete stranger, if you come across as judgmental, the other person will be less likely to confide in you.
- Don’t fear silence. A quiet interlude in otherwise lively conversation does not necessarily indicate that your relationship is doomed or that you have become uninteresting. A short break can sometimes give each of you a chance to refocus.
There are many benefits to being able to keep the conversation going. It can undoubtedly strengthen your bonds with those you care about the most and make conversations more meaningful. And, for those moments when you’re socialising with someone you’ve just met, these tips may lead to unexpected outcomes that broaden your fulfillment in unexpected ways and revives the pleasures of great conversations.